@Justin Marty via flickr
I have 10 applications running at the same time on my computer. Its performance is slow and sluggish. I am annoyed. I don’t care how many programs I have open: I want it to run faster.
But you know who doesn’t care more? My computer. And it has the upper hand.
Unreasonable people change the world and reasonable people adapt themselves to it. There’s no such a thing as a truly reasonable person or a truly unreasonable person: our thresholds are contextual and personal.
Whether we interact with inanimate objects or very animate people, it does us well to consider our threshold for reasonableness, their capacity, and where the power lies.
In my example above, the computer has the power. I can submit and close some applications. Or I can use my power and get another computer, or upgrade the memory in my current one, or smash it. Options and consequences, all influenced by our threshold and power.
That thing that’s been nagging you: you’ve obviously reached a threshold. Before you make a decision, have you considered the other party’s power? And what of yours?