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In your world, who is legit and who is fake?
We believe our physicians are legit until we learn that the cigarettes we’ve been smoking and the Ensure that we’ve been drinking is terrible for us.
We believe our financial planner is real deal until we find out she’s been running a Ponzi scheme.
We bristle at the notion of loving others – even bigots and racists – until our pastor says it, then we can accept it.
We don’t think we are attractive until our significant other (or someone other than our significant other) makes a comment about our beauty.
Legitimacy dictates who we are influenced by. It can be a filter by which we let things in or out. But oftentimes we bestow legitimacy based on criteria that is given more weight than it should: a title, years of experience, our own insecurities. When that happens, we can be influenced to make choices that are not powerful for us, or it takes us too long to learn the lesson we should have learned if we had listened to the child.
Examine to whom you give legitimacy in your life.