It’s easy to think that what is is inevitable, particularly around how others act. “That’s just how he is, and that’s that.”
And it could be. But what could also be is that he is acting on a lifetime of habits that he simply doesn’t notice. What if your role was to cast noticing on to those that you interact with? Not to change them, but to invite them into a new level of self-awareness.
“You know, Jim, I notice that when X happens, you react in a Y way. What’s up with that?”
Give it a try.